We all go through things in life that seem to make their best effort to break us. It is inevitable and unfortunate. During those times often what we believe is shaped by our experience.
How many times has it been said “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger” but I never really thought that to be true, I always went with what doesn’t kill you leaves you lingering for life. Usually the things killing you tend to leave us coalesced and bitter which can be easily believed to be a form of strength. They create fears, phobias, insecurities, and hardness of heart. Being strong does not mean you are unshakeable or emotionless, it is your response to these moments which personify your strength. Responding in forgiveness, gentleness, and love is a greater display of strength than “giving someone what they deserve” or “teaching them a lesson” but it definitely requires a hell of lot more effort. I guess that is why it takes strength.
However, there is now a question that is presented. What does make us stronger?
I find the same answer in two places. The bible and Sons of Anarchy. To some this may be quite the contrast but give it a shot. I am a huge fan of the show, it is so well written and connects with my inner badass.
This is a monologue from the main Character Jax Teller:
Something happens at around 92 miles an hour – thunder-headers drown out all sound, engine vibrations travels at a heart’s rate, field of vision funnels into the immediate and suddenly you’re not on the road, you’re in it. A part of it. Traffic, scenery, cops – just cardboard cutouts blowing over as you past. Sometimes I forget the rush of that. That’s why I love these long runs. All your problems, all the noise, gone. Nothing else to worry about except what’s right in front of you. Maybe that’s the lesson for me today, to hold on to these simple moments. Appreciate them a little more – there’s not many of them left. I don’t ever want that for you. Finding things that make you happy shouldn’t be so hard. I know you’ll face pain, suffering, hard choices, but you can’t let the weight of it choke the joy out of your life. No matter what, you have to find the things that love you. Run to them. There’s an old saying, ‘That what doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger’ I don’t believe that. I think the things that try to kill you make you angry and sad. Strength comes from the good things – your family, your friends, the satisfaction of hard work. Those are the things that’ll keep you whole. Those are the things to hold on to when you’re broken.
In the book of Philippians the author tells the reader(s) to focus on things true, of good report, if they have any virtue, praise worthy, pure, and lovely. The readers are instructed to think on those things, to meditate on them if you will.
Finally, brothers and sisters, fill your minds with beauty and truth. Meditate on whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is good, whatever is virtuous and praiseworthy.
– Philippians 4:8
It is just a few moments later you come across one of the most used scriptures.
For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength.
– Philippians 4:13
So where does your strength come from?
Really your strength comes from the good stuff in your life. It puts things in persepective and resizes your fears and worries allowing you to enjoy your life.
The question now is what are you focusing on?